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Great posts, but I wanted to let you know that your definition of a wing man/woman is a little off. It's not a friend that goes ahead of you and talks you up to your target. It's a friend that helps keep your target's friend busy so you aren't stuck in the ever difficult 2 on 1 conversation the whole time. No girl wants to be abandoned and left all alone while her friend chats up a new guy, sp she'll either stick by her friend and prevent any one on one conversation, or the target will feel bad and stay with her lonely friend. A wing man prevents this problem.
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I wanted to know your opinion on something. These days, it seems to me girls are becoming more and more shallow, generally (I'm not going to say ALL girls are like that, some girls aren't, but in general, especially the more attractive they are, they seem to be more shallow). Here is my concern. You are the second girl I've asked this because I want more than one opinion(the other girl is Julia, another "double agent" from this site).
When I was born, I was born with one leg shorter than the other one, because my right femur was slightly curving outwards (for some reason). It was a 1 in 10 million chance. But it happened. And now, consequently, I have to wear a lift on my shoe to compensate for the length. As of a couple months ago, the lift is about 9-10cm in length. My only other option is to get surgery to fix it, which I am strongly considering, but your opinion may have an influence on my choice. There's more f***ed up things to add about my leg than this, but they're irrelevant.
Today, I am a healthy 19 year old university student. As far as looks go, I'm tan, 6 feet tall, black fohawk hair, trimmed sideburns, and I'm toned. Personality-wise, my three main characteristics are enthusiastic, cheerful, and optimistic and I always keep my chin up, when it comes to facing any obstacle or challenge.
My question to you is...do girls care about my leg? Do they care if my leg is like this, with the lift and the curved femur? Does it make them uncomfortable, or is it a turnoff? Is the lift and/or the femur a turnoff? (You can't really see the femur is curved, but you can definitely feel it.)
Also, would YOU care? What would YOU think?
I mean, I've never had trouble talking to girls or exuding confidence around them, even highly attractive girls, and most girls I've talked to enjoy talking to me. But I have always been shy of asking them out or taking it a step further because I feared that they might be uncomfortable with my situation, you know, if they notice it. And I always feel self-conscious about it, and sometimes I get stares which really bothers me. I always try to hide it too, and I want to know if I should stop trying to hide it.
I've trapped myself in a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Please let me know what women think on this issue, as well as what do YOU think, for instance if I ever tried to approach you and talk to you, how would you react if you noticed the lift? I wouldn't ask you if I thought you couldn't help me.
Thank you, Val. Your advice is greatly appreciated! I also love your helpful videos!
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im in a serious bind. im currently falling for my ex's younger sister and the feeling is mutual. my ex and i broke up 4 years ago but have remained pretty close because she helped me cope with a spinal injury. she has lived outta state for the past four years and been in a serious relationship of her own for the past two years. but the problem is that her and her sister are not close and she flipped just hearing that me and her sister hung out. ive been over my ex for awhile but i dont kno how to talk to her about the possibility of me and her sister, especially now that shes pissed at me. the animosity between them is such that my ex said,"well maybe ill just invite you to my wedding and not her." i dunno what to do val please help with any advice. i asked you cuz you do social skils and get the area as im from essex county in nj. thanks!
Wanted to be the first one to drop a comment, and ask what it is that makes ex-"persons" resurface after years of no communication, and then want to chat it up. That sh!t is a mystery to me.
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